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‌CHAPTER 14

16 December 1977 pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium

[A sannyasin, returning to the West, says he has felt exhausted for years; here it seemed to become more intense.

Osho checks his energy.]

It is there and it must have been there for many years – maybe from your very birth. But you were not aware of it, that’s all. Tell me a few thingsOne is: how is your love relationship?

[The sannyasin answers: Generallyit’s a cry for love but a feeling that I cannot get it.]

Mm mm, that’s what my feeling is. You have somehow missed your mother’s energy in your childhood. The body is perfectly okay, you have been getting food, but you have not been getting love, and that is real nourishment.

You can do something and it can be changed; it will take a little time but it can be changed. Relate to women not as a lover but as a child, and soon it will be okay. There is no need to say that to any woman otherwise no woman would like you as a child, mm? they are searching for a lover. Unless you can find some older woman who will enjoy the idea of your being a child, or a childless woman who will be thrilled by the idea. But there is no need to say; keep it deep inside you. When you are holding the hand of a woman or lying down with a woman, feel that you are a small child and that the woman is your mother. Soon, within two, three months, the energy will be back and flowing. You need a mother.

The mother is such an important person, in fact the only important person. If you are healthy, later on it is somehow related to the mother; if you are not healthy, that too is related to the mother. All pathologies, all abnormalities, all perversions are related to the mother.

Make your love less a sexual affair and more a love affair, because if you make it a sexual affair you will not be relating to the woman as a mother. There is no need to avoid sex completely but it will be more helpful if you can lie down with the woman with no sexual idea in it just relaxing together, just relaxing in her energy, bathing in her energy. And within two, three months, you will find yourself with more energy. The body is perfectly okay so medicine cannot help, doctors cannot do anything about it. Just love energy is missing; that’s why you feel the cry for it. And you can find a woman but she will be a wife or a girlfriend and you don’t know how to relate with her as mother; that’s what you have to learn.

... If you cannot do it there [in the West], then it will be the best thing if you come back here. I have a few women who are hankering for children! That will be perfectly okay, but if you can find someone there, good. Otherwise next time when you come. It will go, mm? Good!

[A sannyasin on a previous occasion had been found dancing naked in the street. Tonight she is returning to the West and says: Three times now I have gone really crazy. It comes to a point where I have a very deep understanding and feel I am flowing with existence and am totally there. Then one day something happens and I go crazy. It’s as if I leave; I’m not there anymore. It’s happened three times now and it takes a long time to get back to normal.]

Mm mm... mm mm. This time, when it starts happening, you have to stop it because that destroys the whole thing, mm? you get into trouble and then to come back becomes difficult. That totality is perfectly good but if that totality turns into craziness then whatsoever benefit was going to be there is destroyed.

So this time do one thing: every night when you go to sleep, repeat seven times that when it is about to happen you will be able to stop it. Just every night go on repeating it seven times before you fall asleep. And in the morning too when you wake up, the first thing to remember seven times is that if it happens again you will be able to stop it. That idea has to get deep into you, that’s all. Whenever you feel that it is coming, just hold the locket and say to it ‘Stop!’ and it will stop. That is not much; one just has to learn how to stop it.

That totality with existence is perfectly good but falling into craziness destroys everything, so this timewill help you: you will be able to stop it.

[A visitor asks, on behalf of his wife, if cremation of the dead is a good idea.]

It is just meaninglessjust meaningless. The best thing is what the Parsis do in India, mm? – they

leave the body for the birds and the animals. That is the most ecological. You have been eating people, birds and trees and things; you have to be eaten in turn. That is the most ecological and natural but a little horrible.

The second best is the Christian way, burying people in the ground, because at least the earth will get back all the elements. The Hindu way of burning is most unnatural because you destroy! You have been eating and taking from existence for so long and then suddenly you burn everything. But whatsoever you do, the body is just dead, mm? The soul is gone so it makes not much difference; anything is okay. Once the bird has flown then it is just a cage. What you do with it makes no difference; it is just a question of disposing of it.disposing of it in such a way so that it doesn’t look

ugly, disposing of it in such a way so that it looks sophisticated.

The person is gone, now the problem is of those who are left: what to do with this body? You have loved this person and you cannot just leave it anywhere, otherwise it will haunt your mind. You have to make a ritual so that you come to a conclusion that everything is finished. It is just a conclusion for those who are still alive. They have gone to the cemetery or to the burning place and they have been burned and all is finished. So it is a good end, mm? – just a way of putting ‘the end’, otherwise the body will be lying there and you will be worried. The wife’s body is lying in the house; what to do? She will haunt you and she will not allow you to find a new wife and things like that! (laughter) And the fear of her becoming a ghost, and... Otherwise there is nothing much to be worried about; it is not much of a religious thing.

But if you ask me ecologically, then the Parsis’ way is the best, but it is not very human; it looks a little inhuman, mm? – just leaving the body for the birds to eat. The very idea looks a little nauseating; that is the most ecological. But your wife won’t like that!

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