Being in Love

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌ATTRACTION AND OPPOSITION‌ There are a few very fundamental things to be understood. First, a man and a woman are on the one hand halves of the other, and on the other hand, opposite polarities. Their being opposites attracts them to each other. The farther away they are, the deeper will be the attraction; the more different from each other they are, the more will be the charm and beauty and attraction....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌DROPPING OUT OF THE LONELY HEARTS CLUB‌ A very intricate, complex thing has to be understood: If you are not in love, you are lonely. If you are in love, really in love, you become alone. Loneliness is sadness; aloneness is not sadness. Loneliness is a feeling of incompleteness. You need someone and the needed one is not available. Loneliness is darkness, with no light in it....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌SOUL MATES OR CELL MATES?‌ We are all living lives according to fictions, poetries, film stories. That has given humanity a wrong impression, the impression that when there is love everything will fit, that there will be no conflict. For centuries poets have been giving the idea that lovers are made for each other. Nobody is made for anybody else. Everybody is different from everybody else....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌LOVE AND THE ART OF NON-DOING‌ There are things which only happen, which cannot be done. Doing is the way of very ordinary things, mundane things. You can do something to earn money, you can do something to be powerful, you can do something to have prestige; but you cannot do anything as far as love is concerned, gratitude is concerned, silence is concerned....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌CONTENTS Title Page Introduction: What Is Love? PART I. The Journey from “Me” to “We” Understanding the Nature and Nurture of Love Beyond Dependency and Domination—Breaking Out of the Shell of the [Ego]{style=” color: #0000ED; font-family:"Times New Roman", serif; font-style: italic; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline; font-size: 14pt;“} {style=” color: #0000ED; font-family:"Times New Roman", serif; font-style: italic; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; font-size: 14pt;“} The Natural Stages of Life and Loving...

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌INTRODUCTION: WHAT IS LOVE?‌ It is unfortunate that we have to ask this question. In the natural course of things everybody would know what love is. But in fact nobody knows, or only very rarely does somebody know, what love is. Love has become one of the rarest experiences. Yes, it is talked about. Films and stories are written about it, songs are composed about it, on the television shows you will see it, on the radio, in magazines—a great industry exists to supply you with ideas of what love is....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌OSHO INTERNATIONAL MEDITATION RESORT‌ The Osho Meditation Resort is a place where people can have a direct personal experience of a new way of living with more alertness, relaxation, and fun. Located about 100 miles southeast of Mumbai in Pune, India, the resort offers a variety of programs to thousands of people who visit each year from more than one hundred countries around the world....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌PART I‌ The Journey from “Me” to “We” ‌Understanding the Nature and Nurture of Love Love cannot be learned, it cannot be cultivated. The cultivated love will not be love at all. It will not be a real rose, it will be a plastic flower. When you learn something, it means something comes from the outside; it is not an inner growth. And love has to be your inner growth if it is to be authentic and real....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌PART II‌ Love Is a Breeze ‌Making the Most of Romance Don’t think that love has to be permanent, and it will make your love life more beautiful because you will know that today you are together, and tomorrow perhaps you will have to part. Love comes like a fresh, fragrant breeze into your home, fills it with freshness and fragrance, remains as long as existence allows it, and then moves out....

< Previous | Contents | Next > ‌PART III‌ From Relationship to Relating—Love as a State of Being The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person—without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other....